5. SEX-HUNT
ADDICTION:-
"But I love to be free. I cannot change my spots.
The ordinary man is satisfied with a moderate income, a
home, a wife, children, and all that...But I am a million
miles from being that kind of man and no amount of
trying will ever do any good....I shall never lose the spirit
of my interest in women"
-Zane Grey (1872-1938), American western
fiction novelist; author 'The Vanishing
American' (1925).
"Of all the worldly passions lust is the most intense.
All other worldly passions seem to follow in its train"
-Buddha 480 B.C.
"Lust's passions will be served; it demands, it militates,
it tyrannizes."
-Marquis de Sade (1740 --1814).
Males are straight out sex addicts. Concupiscent. Let's just be
blunt and say it. But its not a simple addiction like ejaculation
relief which could be self-administered, for example, in a night
club toilet. This sort of addiction craves a living flesh and blood
female, the Real Deal, and not a lower level drug substitute like
masterbation. The Real Deal for males is that they want
to ejaculate in a vagina, a female mouth or a female anus. And
they want to use these orifices like a spitoon. Or they want to
ejaculate over the female's breasts or face. Now I realise that this
doesn't sound very elegant, or how Prince Charming is supposed
to behave but I only have to point to the billions of gigabytes
taken up on porn sites for heterosexual males-- and that's what
the female actors are undertaking for their masterbating male
audience. And these males are not interested in storyline, or
even sound. They want to cut straight to the action, which is vivid
color motion pictures, with the participants involved like rutting
dogs and sexual anatomy engaging with each other. A lot of these
movies could even be a throw back to the days of silent film, with
no sound at all, and an entire movie length of say, 10 minutes. And
for the males who like their porn with sound, and some dialogue,
you don't need much of a screenplay--just lots of moaning and the
same short lines, repeated, ad infinitum.i.e.
"Harder!....Harder!....Stick it in.. (etc)".
Pornography is the most base, or lowest level entertainment
gimcrack, ever assembled for thoughtful humans. More rigour
goes into assembling entertainment for toddlers than for
adult male porn.
The point of this chapter is to explain why pornography is so popular, and why female sex workers have so much power. Simple. It's because the males have a sex addiction.
Pussy is like a form of heroin, but with the volume level turned down.
The ordinary male is not usually forced by his addiction into illegal actions but in many cases it comes perilously close. A lot of males sitting in jail today are there, directly or indirectly, because of Pussy... Trying to take short cuts to access money or prestige. Giving themselves a strength value that can't be degraded through insult or design. Some males spend an extraordinary amount of time trying to achieve something, some goal, that doesn't even suit them. They think if they reach that goal it will give them some prestige, a form of sex currency to help relieve their addiction. For the same reason many males take reckless risks with their health and lives pursuing daredevil type stunts, all for the sake of prestige.
And Pussy acts just like a drug. Like Heroin. For a start there is the craving, then the relief, and later the craving starts again. Like its all brand new again. Back to the start. In the classic drug scenario the user needs more and more of the same drug to get the same relief. For the Pussy drug addict the user has the same need for more of the same drug, however "more" doesn't mean quantity of physical activity with the same partner. More means variety. The sex addict after a while craves for some fresh meat, another different exotic island. And just like for any other addict, the priority is the drug. It doesn't have to be presented looking like a million dollars. No marketing needs to go into its packaging. For our male sex addict any old porn will do. An alluring prostitute working out of a car would suffice for most males. Many males on the hunt, particularly with some sex stimulant like alcohol coursing through their blood, can be like an alcoholic who is no longer concerned about the state of his clothes or public demeanor, provided he has access to his drug. For some very so called "respectable" men, some of their sexual escapades are so embarrassing they'd never tell their friends,--caught in a dirty old suburban house with a freelance prostitute, or caught down by the creek, behind a junkyard with some homeless old alcoholic female. Sex addiction in many males is so strong, that these desperate options start looking pretty good when there's nothing else around.
I cannot describe the neuro-psychological physiological chemical and nerve impulse reactions that make up the male sex drive. Lets just say males are physically attracted to females and are quite capable of engaging in intimate physical sex with a complete female stranger without any other social interaction such as conversation, or even knowing their names, as I alluded too in an earlier chapter. There are even some males that would prefer this sort of random anonymous physical sex.
Years ago I remember reading a comedy story about the average red blooded male's susceptibility to random (loveless) sex. The story goes that two males travelling together have a car accident, one is taken by one ambulance to hospital unconscious, but is expected to be ok. The other male has a shattered lower leg that is starting to hurt and is in the back of another ambulance. A very attractive and busty paramedic starts to stroke the man's penis on the outside of his pants, and says she's not allowed to give him any pain relief until the doctor sees him first. Does he understand? The male, patient still confused and slightly in shock, nods yes. The busty paramedic checks to make sure no-ones watching and then unbuttons her shirt, showing her lacy brassiere underneath. She asks the man if he'd like some organic pain relief. Now I ask how do you think our typical male would react? Do you think he'd be instantly thinking of shouting out to the driver to intervene, and formulating ideas for a sexual harassment claim? Or do you think he'd be thinking of some "organic pain relief" and having access to those hypnotic body parts that our paramedic is now lifting his hand to? Exactly.
In one of the opening quotes to an earlier chapter the young male singer asks a young female..."How do you do what you do to me?". He then goes on to say that if he knew, he'd do it straight back. Why? Because he'd obviously like to have the same sort of lust power over her, that she's got over him. If the young male had this sort of power he could virtually snap his fingers and have complete access to her naked body without having to go through all the bullshit.
Males want to find a way to assert their will to get sex. They can't physically impose their will, so other avenues have to be utilised. So what are these other avenues. Males erroneously think that the solution is discovering what women want. They think if they knew that then they could perform accordingly. For example if it was discovered that women were immediately 'turned on' by gay or childish sounding syllables, you'd have the hairiest and ugliest males overnight talking like Fred Spencer, on the old BBC TV series 'Some Mothers Do 'Ave 'Em. But that doesn't work, so there is no point. There is a small male group in the US known as the "Mystery Method" who are trying to develop a winning act, control spells. They think they have unraveled a seductive formula--exploiting curiosity. And they do have some interesting ideas, the first pseudo 'scientific' attempt I've come across. Just as males are seduced by erotic images, some females can be similarly 'manipulated' by forcing a basic interest from them by what I term hocus-pocus..i.e clairvoyance, astrology, tarot cards and clever close up illusions (magic tricks). This basic interest is a great starting point to eventually gaining sexual access. Still these methods, along with similar curiosity games, seem terribly flimsy. There's a lot of lying involved which is very dangerous these days.
I argue that its even pointless even asking the question. Why? Because its assuming that the correct answer will convert women into men (i.e. with matching lusts). Logically, the first premise is therefore flawed. Females are not males. I've mentioned that sex or rather the sex-hunt addiction for males has the same control, physical and emotional dominance like a drug. For males sex is a drug. For females it is not a drug. For them sex is like a sportscar. Yes they love to drive, even race, the sportscar on occasions, visit the ' showroom', look at brochures. It's as if life has given them a sportscar voucher, pick any one they like. So they mull over the catalogues, test drive a few etc...Now if males could place themselves in this position they might understand, because most males appreciate sportscars. They'd love to own one, if they could, but the shiny sportscar is not going to dominate their lives. They won't work each week, to save up, to spend half their weekly wages to hire one for a couple of hours each weekend, for years. For a male a sportscar can elicit a passion but its not a full-on drug.
Of course the simplest access to 'loveless' sex for males is money. Economic power. Control over an area of resources, food, shelter or luxuries. Women need these resources to survive and if they are cut off by a male 'owner' then he can probably demand instant sex access to her body as 'payment', without any further time/verbal rigmaroles
Fig 4
Women have exactly the same sort of problem with males where they ask....."What do they want.? But its not an ordinary male. Its their husband. It's a parallel problem, but in a different forum. The wives wonder what they have to do, to keep their husbands sexually interested in them. To keep them at home and happy. Many husbands sometimes fantasize about being free, which she intuitively realises...but what does she have to do? It's the same query as the boy lover in the earlier example. How can she change his thinking. Ideally it would work if the wife could change the man's heart into a female's heart. But that can never happen. So wives trying to figure out what their dissatisfied husbands want, and therefore supplying it, is just as elusive as the craving young male grappling with the physical object of his desires. It's well known that males are susceptible to visual cues, such has female curves, breasts, facial and lip contours, wide eyes and upper-leg bottom contours. Just like electric music can be amplified and given more power, a female's body can be given more power by accentuating the fleshy curves in partial clothing. How easy it is for some females. What do men want? Well they know that this part works. Can an average young man imagine what life would be like if he could simply stand on stage, in tight togs, and rotate his torso alternating clockwise, or anti-clockwise like the strippers do. Or could a burly strong truck driver with tattoos imagine getting a job letting attractive young girls bury their faces into his big hairy chest muttering "Daddy!" or "Master"! for say half a day's wage. Which would be a better life, putting up with this treatment from females 6 times a day or driving the rig on the road for 12 hours a day, 6 days a week? There would be thousands of parked trucks never to be driven again if God turned the tables overnight. That's what it's like for female sex workers. It sure beats a boring low paid regular job. Just like a magician's act that fools paying people into witnessing something extraordinary, a prostitute's bodily sex access is just that. A simple trick that collects a mountain of money for nothing. That's why prostitutes refer to their services as "tricks."
The idea that males are sex addicts has been challenged, especially by the female fascists (more later). If its genuinely considered that males have a sex control handicap, which is really no fault of their own, then some of these males shouldn't be held completely accountable for any so called sexual transgressions. Sentencing would have to reflect that. The female fascists don't want this. They don't want the males getting off anything. In fact they want penalties substantially increased across the board for everything to do with males. Therefore sex addiction doesn't exist and any form of research will be ridiculed and counter attacked. It will have to pusseyfoot around the Sisterhood land mines which is whats happening now in the US. There is a new disorder recognised as a 'Sexual Disorder Not Otherwise Specified' (i.e. Sexual Disorder NOS)--which involves a "pattern of repeated sexual relationships involving a succession of lovers who are experienced by the individual as things to be used." (Wiki source). Hello, if this is a recognised disorder then its obviously a common trait because there are millions of males visiting prostitutes each week for that very exact purpose--"as things to be used." They are not looking for True Love or a wife. Debate is raging among medical experts whether sex addiction exists in males and whether it is of a severity to be formally recognised by the American Psychiatrists Association and listed in their manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). At the moment Pussy Power is not at the point where the psychiatrists are prepared to call it an addiction. But its under review and its getting closer.
I mentioned earlier that the male's sex addiction is not simply a matter of ejaculate relief. I think it has to be combined with a form of psychic and physical ceremony, a sort of 'degradation' at least in the males' mind, that gives other areas of his countenance a "relief" similar to the ejaculate. The most important part of this (for the female as well as the male) is that male needs the power balance tipped in his favor, albeit momentarily and for one hour or so afterwards--a short schism. Then the power level slowly returns back up to its natural level of female superiority and control. This is all the male needs... to happily endure the females. The occasional "schism". It doesn't have to be a permanent thing. He gives away the rest out of ignorance....AND respect for his Mother.
At this stage I'd like to re-introduce the notion of True Love.
I'd like to share an interesting example. A famous Hollywood couple, Richard Burton, and Elizabeth Taylor were famous for their relationship squabbles. In fact the couple ended up getting divorced and re-marrying each other before separating for good after the second split. However while they were married Burton apparently cheated on Taylor and had sex with a young and beautiful starlet. Taylor on finding out threw a tantrum, similar to to the character (Katherina) she played in William Shakespeare's 'Taming of the Shrew'. Instead of being the remorseful guilty husband, Burton, instead was remonstrate with Taylor. He said she should be ashamed because obviously she didn't really love him. "If you loved me you should be happy for me too!" he bemoaned in reference to his tryst. The logic being if you love someone, and they're happy, then you too should be happy. Marriages are not founded on True Love but a Conditional Love, which is not really Love at all.
So is this Conditional Love a strong enough basis to get married under? Well I guess it has to be. True Love is so rare and there's not enough time. We have to get on with our lives and make the best of it. Realising this, the consequences of betraying that "conditional contract" shouldn't be as legally treacherous for our 'naturally' sex addicted male.