4. [F.P.D]
....FEMALE
PERCEPTION DISABILITY:-
'For the bewitching of naughtiness
obscures things that are honest
And the wanderings of concupiscence
undermines the simple mind'.....
- Solomon (Old Testament, circa 950BC)
'How do you do what you do to me;
I wish I knew;
If I knew how you do it to me;
I'd do it to you.....'
-Mitch Murray (UK hit song
writer) 'How do you do it' 1962
'For the great majority of mankind are satisfied
with appearances, as though they were realities
and are often more influenced by the things
that seem than by those that are.'
-Niccolo Machiavelli (1469-1527)
author 'The Prince'
'Adults find pleasure in deceiving a child. They
consider it necessary, but also enjoy it..........'
-Elias Canetti, Nobel laureate,
literature (1981).
The short answer: how do they do it? Well they don't actually
do anything. The males are autistic. I don't mean a profound
and obvious autism but rather a perception disability that
would sit on the outer margins of what clinicians call the
'autism spectrum.' In the males' case, even for the high
functioning intelligent alphas, their spectrum disorder
is a specific female perception disability. FPD
Now remember that this booklet is a rant. Like my theory/ideas on LMS (previous chapter) there is no formal recognised medical condition of FPD that states that males have a perception disability, form of autism, and that females don't. Similarly to the chapter on LMS I offer an intuitive explanation.
I think Society should stop denying the evidence that's right there to see. In regards to 'medical' autism the authorities recognise three main maladies on what they term the autism spectrum. There is the classic autism, which I don't suggest males have. And then there are two others, Asperger's Syndrome and Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD-NOS), which are higher functioning forms. There's also the highest functioning form of classical autism, idiot-savant, which could be confused with alpha males or male genius. These are the savants that display certain advanced skills in either drawing, music, mathematics or spatial skills. My idea of an endemic autism affecting most males would be a non-classical form, and would probably sit at the (PDD-NOS) end of the spectrum. Now lets look at what they call anecdotal evidence.
People with autism have social impairments and often lack intuition about others that many people often take for granted. A noted autistic sufferer, Temple Grandin, (Wiki source) described her inability to understand normal social communication and game play as feeling like--"an anthropologist on Mars." Well males feel exactly like this anthropologist in understanding women and game play. They're on Mars as well.
Consider a toddler child, with obviously an infant's immature undeveloped brain. Every male has probably playfully teased an infant, pretending there is a hidden surprise in his hands, or behind a chair. Sometimes the older male will pretend to be sad, or that the toddler has done something naughty. This invariably makes the toddler sad, and if the playful adult is not careful, the toddler will begin to cry. Other times the adult can indulge in outrageous comic suggestions, which the toddler perceives as hilarious, just as the adult intended, and begins to laugh. It's all child's play and the adult can easily manipulate the toddler's emotions, and give out a fake image of mood which the toddler instantly believes and responds too. Well, what would you expect. It's a toddler. Well as bizarre as it should be, I think women have this same control over a part of the male brain. Men are not toddlers, or infantile, therefore this interaction power (adult-toddler) must be borne from a specific perception disability; a form of autism. And that's my theory. For many women, males are simply that: child's play.
Males always pick up the wrong judgement cues with females. For example if a female is interested in a male but is playing 'hard to get,' most males will get scared off. They think the female is too serious, or cold, and probably hates them. He thinks she's only remaining in the conversation trying to be polite, or worse she's a honey trap and she can't be trusted. Now another female witnessing the exchange would learn quite quickly that the female is genuinely interested in the male, probably madly "in love" already, yet she's playing this hard-to-get game. No perception problems here for our observant female.
At the other end of the scale a pleasant and "soft" looking female could say something quite cruel, cold blooded; a genuine threat. The same comments from a strange male would make the male instantly wary. However our strange female, say somebody in a nightclub, would probably elicit a feeling of comradeship with our perception-challenged male. Instead of being wary the male would probably open up to this attractive psycho female and start to share some of his own dark secrets, or ideas too. The male doesn't feel physically threatened by the female so he develops a sense of security despite what she actually says, or who she actually is. (Fig 3)
Fig 3. THE CARESS OF THE SPHINX (1896), Fernand Khnopff, Belgian symbolist
painter. The female is portrayed as a seductive and inscrutable character. Her
soft but dangerous body lies close to the heart of the young male. The idea was
originally spawned from Greek mythology. A female hybrid monster guards the
city of Thales and poses riddles for all who seek to pass. Those unable to answer
are torn to shreds.
The great American female comedian Joan Rivers had a sketch about the perception power of a beautiful woman on a male audience. For example lets imagine a fashionable film festival like Cannes, at an after preview party. In walks a gorgeous looking female actress, a low-level star, obviously a bit tipsy and with a prima donna attitude. She declares to all and sundry that she can't wait to use the toilet. So she just squats down, lifts her dress slightly, and pees all over the marble floor in front of everyone. And the crowd's reaction? Well they would probably laugh, some would applaud. Joan Rivers said the males would instantly think that she's a daring artist, and what she did was "sort of cute". "Beautiful women do, and can get away with anything." Now imagine if it was a slightly drunk low-level male star instead, unzipping and urinating in front of everybody. Showing how obnoxious and disrespectful he really is. You can bet there'd be another male in that room who would take offence instantly, and either walk out of the party in disgust, or take a swing.
As I alluded to in the intro, and following on from Joan Rivers, a female that's borderline mentally retarded could be mistaken for just being a loving shy "country girl", or a quiet organic hippie type. At the other end of the scale a lazy narcisstic histrionic female, particularly if she has a foreign accent, would probably be considered "exotic", independent and strong.
(add for 2014) I was watching an Australian news documentary about the new 2014 head of the U.S Federal Reserve, a female, Janet Yellen, 67. The Fed's first female chief. On the program there was a discussion panel among business journalists (a collection of men and women) about the appointment. To my surprise one of the female panelists gave a short 'girl's own' interpretation of the new appointee. She said the new Fed leader would "coo" like a well meaning Mother Hubbard trying to quell the dissenters. The word "cooing" is used to describe a mother trying to lull her children to sleep. The journalist went on to explain that this metaphorical "cooing", which could only be used by a woman, would be used to lull critics into assuming that the Fed's actions were "softer" and "accommodating" and in contrast to say the physical image of a male "boss". However the female journalist explained, this was a deception. Yellen would be forced to wean the U.S economy off the mother's tit, just as any male Bank leader would be obliged too. She would "coo calmly" while all this was going on...but the Fed's 'monetary handouts' and monetary stimulus program ("quantitative easing"), following the Global Financial Crisis, would continue on track to be concluded by 2015.
If this is a "charm strategy" routinely used by female corporates, but unrecognised by males, then its another classic 'unheralded' case of FPD. (ends)
This perception disability makes males scared of women. Lets face it males generally want something out of females. It could be simply sex, or respect as a work colleague, or employee or employer. Maybe the male wants to make a business client out of the female. Perhaps he's trying to sell her a house. Maybe the male wants to engender himself to a female network for platonic business reasons and wants to be viewed favorably. It doesn't help if the male has a female perception disability. This makes him scared of women. Apart from basic FPD, if that wasn't enough, some old fashioned European psychoanalysts still think there's also a "mother" component in there somewhere. The German psychoanalyst, Karen Horney (1932) wrote that there is also a male fear connected to the expectations of what men perceive their mothers and Society would want from them. Guilt and moral control. Horney wrote a paper entitled "The Dread of Women".
So how does all this affect male behavior? In two ways. The male is either shy or he reacts in the opposite way, trying to confront this frustration. He becomes obnoxious, supercilious and punk like. I am sure you have recognised males like this.
Because of this perception disability a male therefore can only react to a female at the irrational emotional level. An unfamiliar female, a sex symbol, or a piece of Pussy communicating with them is not actually a human being talking to them. It's actually a piece of music. A song, embodied in a human form. This woman has things to say and she says things. But songs say things too, they have lyrics. However the meaning and intent of a song's lyrics can be completely manipulated by the music underneath. Music has an emotional hypnotic type control that can completely empower or corrupt the most lame words. The woman's body...her sex potential, her eyes, lips, leg shape, breast outline, seductive costume and face form a hypnotic musical experience for the male; sending out powerful emotional triggers. Therefore what she really says is often lost in the translation.
Let me give you some examples of the power of emotion over words:
Examine the following words; "Brown Street. There is a motor mechanic who likes model
aeroplanes. He enjoys fixing both. Many of his customers will
drop in and say hi. At the end of the street lives an old man
with a pushbike. When he rides some kids will poke fun at him.
It's funny but he never wears a raincoat and rides when its
wet."
How long would it take you to write out a little description like that? Ten minutes? Imagine if you could write out a simple story like that, and say another four or five like it, put it on some paper and then quit your job. Why? Because what you have just written is so apparently fantastic that millions of people will pay to hear you read it out on record. Not only that, it will be recited on the radio stations worldwide at various intervals for the next 60 years and millions upon millions of people will pay and stand in their thousands in football stadiums to hear you recite those same words, that they've already heard hundreds of times before. You may scoff but if you can put some music underneath those some lame words, thereby "supercharging" it with emotion and sentimentality, it changes everything. Which is exactly what the Beatles did with their simple little story 'Penny Lane', which inspired the words above. Not only lame words but ridiculous and even moronic utterances can be used to manipulate the listener into thinking something quite serious is afoot. Again I give you the Beatles and some of their lyrics from one of their pop songs: ...'I am the egg man; they are the egg men: I am the Walrus!; Ooh Ooh ca Choo!" These lyrics were a very banal attempt at being surrealistic, which was fashionable in 1967. However the words didn't mean anything, and their writer, John Lennon, was at pains to later point this out because people were seeking him out thinking they recognised important code messages. That's the power of music, or rather the power of emotion. At the time those embarrassingly stupid lyrics were seen as something either transcendental or some sort of clarion call to revolution. You know even today musicians, like the stage magician who puts together an otherwise dumb act (if you know the trick), wonder how they can get away with it. Which brings me back to Pussy Power. Our autistic male doesn't actually hear or recognise what the Pussy is really saying, or whether her behavior is blatantly disrespectful, bullying, or questionably insane......he only experiences the beautiful sounding music emanating from the attractive instrument.
Here's another 'classic case' of FPD. In April 2013, in Lowestoft, Suffolk, a young pregnant mother superficially stabbed the father of her children, who was living separately from her at that stage, on a Sunday night. She had gone to visit him and they had a row. She then returned to her flat and killed her three children aged 3, 2 and 11 months by drowning them. Later that morning, she dressed herself in neat fashionable attire for a heavily pregnant woman, and went to the father's flat to give him her home keys. She was probably hoping that he would later make the gruesome discovery. Then less than two hours later she threw herself off a car-park building, killing herself.
Yet the woman was described in a typical Police PR message, quoting the woman's family, as a "beautiful, intelligent, loving and caring person." Of course media reports said she was "depressed", that her actions were the result of "too much pressure" lending credence to the notion that she was indeed a victim, just as much as her murdered children.
Yet this is how a lot of people like to imagine such scenarios. And the mass media will pander to these perceptions because its lowly paid reporters are, after all, human too. All stories have to fit in with the "logic" and perception acceptances of the masses. For example the American novelist, the late Norman Mailer, described watching television news or reading the morning newspapers as like "slipping into a warm bath." None of the stories leave you 'confused', or forced to "think". They NEVER leave you feeling "ignorant" and always have a quick answer for the obvious "doubts," usually the first question that springs into the ordinary 'uneducated' brain. So the image of motherlove is protected (fair enough) and a reasonable plausible explanation is served up, in this case, to explain her act of insanity. Although it was never mentioned publicly there would be those that might even suggest it was the father's fault. You know, provoking this woman etc.. This is a form I'd call "public" FPD. The sense that every female presented to the media, i.e victims, and even many female criminals themselves represent a form of "Snow White." A woman is automatically assumed to be 'Snow White'...until proven otherwise.
No-one dared suggest that this woman was a vain, selfish nutter with a diabolical potential for violent revenge. However, goodness me , the woman's family did finally mention something quite revealing.... "she suffered from mental illness since she was young."
Well I wonder whether the father was ever told about that. Now I ask, do you think any male would have been bothered with a genuine female nutter for years, it seems, if he knew? I'd suggest that like most males he thought her strange behavior or selfish emotionality was simply female "flamboyance" and that any wacko behavior was simply passed off the next day as "woman's prerogative". This is classic FPD. However, tragic end in this case.
In 1985 the German writer Patrick Suskind published his novel Perfume: The Story of a Murderer. It was originally published in German as Das Parfum
The novel tells the story of a 'retarded' and childlike virtual mute who is physically ugly and is born with no 'body scent' in 18th Century Paris. And like an idiot savant who has a genius, this character develops a genius for developing perfumes. These perfumes not only give him a 'normal' body odour they also intoxicate the 'smeller' who aligns the beautiful smell with the ugly and foul mute character. So not only does this foul character appear "beautiful", but any actions are deemed "beautiful" as well. These perfumes are like the proverbial witches spell. Now that may be harmless enough except this mute character is a rampant serial killer who focuses on stalking and murdering young virgins. From memory I think he also skins his victims to concoct a scent. Regardless the crimes are shocking and the community is in fear, similar to that of 'Jack the Ripper'.
Eventually the character is caught and is sentenced to be executed. On the execution day he is brought before the baying masses in a Horse drawn carriage. However before the execution, the evil character (Grenouille) was able to douse himself in one of his special perfumes, which would completely jangle the senses of anyone who smelt it. As soon as the carriage pulled up, and the crowd got a whiff, there were immediate screams to release the prisoner. The perfume gave the character a complete "image" of purity and innocence. And in line with the primitive emotional senses, which can have an effect on "reasoning", in this case the results were devastating. Everyone was overwhelmed with feelings of "divine reverence and carnal passion" (Wiki). The character was freed, an given an automatic pardon on the spot. Another completely innocent person was immediately accused of the crimes, and executed instead. Everybody started crying because their emotional cravings had been satisfied. Even the father of one of the young female victims. In tears he walks up and, unable to control his manipulated emotions, genuinely says "sorry" to his daughter's torturer and killer. The story continues and has an interesting end, which I won't spoil here.
The story is a bizarre ghoulish fantasy however it did remind the reader of the relationship and power of "emotional meaning" over a person's decision making...i.e their allegiances. That "appearances" have power.
Interestingly I believe comparisons can be made, using the story's moral. The ghoul killer used perfumes to control a stranger's emotions.
Female criminals have used their femininity or connection to Motherhood, and therefore Motherlove, to similarly affect a jury's emotion, even over Prosecuting authorities. The "spell" that these women cast is that they are basically sympathetic and loving. As I made mention earlier, its Snow White or Motherlove. Subconsciously a stranger casts for explanations to explain the crime while "protecting" the positive feelings of femininity and motherlove. They want a good enough story to let her go, or to punish as lightly as possible. Thats why victim stories are so important. Even judges can be mesmerised by this which is reflected in the notorious discrepancies in female sentencing. Prosecuting authorities have been known to pursue a male for a crime, but let a female accomplice either go free--or go State's witness against the male--when they are both equal partners in the same crime.
You can find plenty of examples on Mens Rights sites. HOWEVER I will inject my own direct personal experience to the above statement.
In 1986 I reported on a murder case in Australia. I was a senior reporter for a major metropolitan newspaper daily (email me and I'll send you the link). A young man had murdered his wife. At the time he was having an affair. His young mistress had tempted him into killing his wife for the insurance money. After the murder there were media reports about the missing woman, that there were "grave fears" etc. and that the police were searching an area where she was last seen. The media showed a country area and a road on television, where the police were searching. The mistress actually called the Police anonymously to indicate "not there, further up the road". Clues where police could find the body so the 'official" death could be expedited, and the insurance money paid out. When police started to zero in on the husband, she was offered "immunity from prosecution" and turned against her lover even though she had "provoked" him to do the killing. Even in Court it was acknowledged that she was the mastermind and motivating force behind the whole scheme. Yet it was the husband with 'blood' on his hands. I sat in the Courtroom and watched this woman. She was completely shameless, almost laughing back at the husband's defence barrister, a well-known local QC, who angrily suggested that she was a manipulator and a slut. Instead she snorted..."Yeah, probably". This woman didn't care. She existed on a different moral plane. The dumb husband, the "people's Court, the male Judge and barristers were all sub-species to her, in my opinion. (More along this thread is continued in Chapter 7). From memory I recall that this same female had a prior criminal record for another offence about 3 years earlier involving deceit (not murder) where another male had been exploited. I remember thinking that this was one of the most dangerous females I'd ever seen. And how, as a journalist, could I warn the public about her because her identity was suppressed. To be fair this was an extremely rare female--but they're out there. Yet she wasn't an obvious looking psychopath or a stunning beauty. She was about 24, neat, no tattoos or obvious piercings. No deliberate statement makeup. She wasn't physically big. She appeared SAFE.
I think it would assist "justice", for women accused of serious crimes, to have any potential control imaging minimised by either cutting off or excluding long "angelic" hair and not allowing them to wear any make-up. That's what the French did after WW2 when they displayed the female traitors who had collaborated with the Nazis, causing the murder of hundreds. Before their executions they displayed the female traitors in public, shaved of their hair and with no make up. It gave the observers a completely different image of the true treasonous person before them.
Let me cheekily add a comment here by a famous American novelist and essayist, the late Norman Mailer: "You don't know a woman until you've met her in Court."
He also made another off-the-cuff comment that he thought women should be kept in cages. He later explained that this was in relation to their super powers, that if left to run amok, had the potential to wreck all sorts of havoc, similar to letting tigers roam free.
Now in relation to Mailer's comment there has only been one Society which has recognised the dangerous potential of Pussy Power and its effect on males with their perception disability and sex addiction (next chapter). And they've literally tried to put it in a "cage." Traditional Muslim societies. They try and cover up the entire body and face in black craven cloth. The burka and chador. This indicates to me that these old cultures, in at least one aspect, got something right for the times and were not as primitive as we in the West perceive. In fact they were further advanced in understanding power play mechanisms between sexes than our so-called modern Western culture. For the sake and survival of the family unit, they actually tried something practical, like covering up the female body in public. They realised that true beauty could not be allowed to roam free public, like Mailer's roaming tigers, to corrupt the weak male perception challenged and sex-addicted mind.
Finally, let me add another 'phenomenon' I've observed. This is the phenomenon of genuine "love" and devotion on the part of a female accorded to her selected and faithful male while maintaining the polar opposite, a virtual absence of conscience, with the other 'non-selected' males. I liken this to the favored male as the pet white mouse. For example many females can have a special pet white mouse, which they "love", feed and protect. And if the mouse dies they are genuinely sad and probably have a small burial service in the back yard. However just because they like that particular mouse, and think its cute, any other mice in the vicinity such as a wild house mouse is viewed with a shriek of horror, even though they can look cute too. No, these mice are rodents. To be exterminated. Males going through the Family Courts quickly realise that they have lost their 'white mouse status'. And just as he's been converted into a rodent brown mouse, the person sitting opposite has converted from a person of trust into an apparent psychopath. A virtual protected police witness for the other side that knows lots of secrets. And she's going to unload. You're going to be judged on 1 or 2 "bad" things which will probably remain in her eternal memory as your "legacy". The other 998 good things you did, probably costly and time consuming over say a 10 year period, don't count and won't be remembered.
'When women love us, they forgive us everything,
even our crimes; when they do not love us they
give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues.'
-Honore de Balzac (French novelist, 19th Century)
The trouble for males is that they never know if this can occur in their relationships. It should also be noted that in some instances even a female's father can find himself relegated to brown mouse status. Fatherhood doesn't guarantee a male any sort of immunity from a female's potential side-swapping. I'm reminded of the lyrics (ones that were actually true with the music) of the Carole King song, 'It's Too Late'...."Something inside has died and I can't hide. And I just can't fake it." Warning: When that happens, if you can recognise it. Look out.
The only males that retain their white male status forever, even if they're unfaithful to their partners or become real criminals in society, are the females' sons. The Mother. She is the only loyal female for the male on Earth. Only one.